Monday, April 12, 2010
Sometimes, kids make it very difficult to just grin and bear it. Sometimes, you just want to throw a tantrum yourself. But as a parent, you know that you have to set a good example because ultimately, you are one of the biggest influences in your child's life. How you handle circumstances will reflect how your child would react to the same circumstances when he/she has to face them. So what do you do when you're on the verge of losing it?
A recent article from breezymama.com clues us in:
THINGS TO DO IF YOU LOSE YOUR TEMPER
7. Walk Away
While this seems like a ‘no brainer’, disengaging is often the very thing we fail to do. We stay engaged in the upset, our energy & frustration increases – our child’s energy & frustration increase and pretty soon, we’ve got a mess on our hands. If we could begin practicing walking away, then we can calm ourselves down, figure out what we want to be teaching our children and how we want to respond.
6. See Where Your Child is Right
I know this seems counter-intuitive to what we’re supposed to do, but by seeing where your child is right, you can get their perspective, begin to understand their feelings and see how they see you in this situation. In addition, you will no longer be viewing them as wrong which will go a long way.
Breathing allows your nervous system to relax, gives you some time to calm down and respond instead of reacting and brings new energy to this situation.
4. Look at What’s REALLY Going on
If you find that you are losing your temper repeatedly or over the same situation then take the time to figure out what’s really going on. What is causing that situation to be a “hot button” for you? Why does it bother you so much? It probably has much more to do with you than it does your child and finding out will give you peace in other areas of your life, as well.
3. Do a Make-Up
When we make a mess, we clean it up. When we break something, we fix it. And when we disturb a relationship, we do something called a Make-Up. Make-ups are your way of doing, saying or contributing to the one you’ve disturbed your relationship with to re-establish harmony and peace (And it can be fun!).
To see the rest of this much-needed advice, click here!
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